If you’re like me or the author of Never Have I Ever: My Life (So Far) Without a Date, Katie Heaney, most people probably don’t believe you when you say that you’ve never been in a relationship. Then, when you not only lay that shocker on them, you hit them with the next confession by telling them that you’ve also never been on a date. Or at least what by all intents and purposes counts as a “date”. And no, the one time that creepy guy on the bus or the guy old enough to be your grandfather’s grandfather with the wonky eye asked you out doesn’t count. Or the drunken hook-ups. I’m talking about the real thing. But not one. Just a bunch of almost somethings and secret crushes. I thought I was like the Magical Liopleurodon, Big Foot, or a unicorn. An unfortunate “one of a kind” that somehow navigated through High School, College and Grad School without having that special sort of connection with a significant other. But I was wrong and there are a lot more of us out there than you would probably imagine.
On paper, it doesn’t make much sense. I have always been an outgoing person. I was a cheerleader, beauty queen, and sorority girl. And now I’m a successful twenty-something who takes pride in her image and has a pretty healthy social life. I have always been surrounded by a good amount of athletes, frat guys, businessmen, dudes in general, looking to either date a girl, or pretending to want to date a girl to just get into her pants. It’s really the luck of the draw. But whether it’s my strong, “I take no shit” attitude, or my notorious side-eye that’s almost as bad as this girl’s:
I have never pursued them and I have never been pursued by them.
I bet you’re still calling BS, aren’t you?
Some would say that I’m lucky to be in my situation, completely free of romantic damage. Others have asked me how I’ve survived this long without dating or being in a relationship. As I like to say, it is what it is. It will happen when it happens. And there is a lot that one assumes about a girl in my situation that’s just not true. We aren’t out there, knees in the sand, crawling through the desert that is our love life, looking for just anything to quench our thirst. A thirst that may not even be present at all, you never know. Each one of us have ended up where we are under our own custom circumstance. Just take a look at this article from Elite Daily, and you’ll learn that most pre-conceived notions regarding relationship virgins are totally bogus. But enough about that, let’s get back to why I think you should check out Never Have I Ever: My Life (So Far) Without a Date.
This book is a hilarious and honest account in the life of a girl who is not unlike some of us out there wondering why our romantic life has been, well, bleak. For those of you who aren’t in the same type of situation, it’s a story that allows you to submerge yourself into the thoughts of someone who has lived a life thus far without a relationship or dating. It gives you a unique perspective that leaves you feeling like the time you’ve spent reading the book has actually been time you’ve spent living an alternative life or one very much like your own. Depending on which side of the fence you stand on. Either way, it’s a great read!
♥ → Ki’Era aka Wine2TheRescue ← ♥